Have you ever had a friend suddenly stop talking to you? Or maybe it was a person you liked? You were talking, exchanging texts, and one day, they just stopped talking to you. You tried to contact them again, but they never replied.
If that’s the case, you may have been ghosted. It can be difficult to know what to do when this happens to you. You’re left with no closure, and it can be hard to know how to cope with the feelings you’ve been left with. But there are a few things you can do to move on from being ghosted by someone you really liked.
Feel Your Emotions
This might be difficult, especially if you’re the type to keep yourself busy to avoid dwelling on your feelings. But it’s important to give yourself time to sit down and accept them. We can only move on from being ghosted if we acknowledge that we were hurt and if we let ourselves feel that hurt.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s important to take care of yourself during tough times. This can mean taking care of yourself both physically and mentally. Make sure you’re sleeping and eating enough, and that you’re not overworking yourself in an attempt to avoid thinking about what happened.
Try to listen to music you like, or maybe participate in activities that you find calming or fun. It’s normal to want comfort when you’ve been hurt, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t allow yourself to be comforted in whatever way you need.
Remember It’s Not Your Fault
As a result of being ghosted, it’s very likely you’ll find yourself wondering what you did wrong. After all, there has to be a reason why they stopped talking to you so suddenly. And yes, there is, but it doesn’t have anything to do with you. If you did anything wrong at all, you certainly didn’t deserve to get ghosted for it. The fact that this person chose to ghost you means that they’re the one with a problem they need to deal with.
It can be hard to remember this, and hard to even believe it, but it wasn’t your fault. When you start thinking about whether you did something wrong, do your best to remember that.
Don’t Chase Them
It might be tempting to continue texting this person, maybe even find them in person and talk about what happened. But if they avoid you consistently, you might want to let them go. None of this is worth your time and energy. So, don’t waste your time trying to talk to someone who doesn’t want to talk. It will only make things worse for both of you in the long run.
Talk to Someone
Talking to someone helps a lot. If you have a good friend you can rely on, discuss this with them. Let them know what happened and how you feel. You can ask this of a family member too. You can ask this of as many people as you need in order to move forward and process what happened to you.
Contact Us
And if you find yourself needing more help than what they can provide, that’s absolutely fine. There’s nothing wrong with seeking a counselor. This might seem like something minor, but believe it or not, this is what we’re here for. So, if after all this, you still need help, don’t hesitate to schedule an appointment with Integrative Psychotherapy Group. Maybe you really liked this person, but they’re not an essential part of your life. You were fine before you met them. You can get there again. All you need is the right kind of help.
